During my almost a decade and a half of practice as a psychologist, not a single client has ever come to me with the complaint that they suffer from envy, while very often it turns out that this also plays an important role in the problem. Envy is an extremely common, extremely torturous, but, so to speak, unacceptable feeling, which we are usually ashamed of and try to deny, even to ourselves. And we absolutely do not admit to others if we are envious of someone, because doing so would only elevate the person whose superiority already hurts us even more, and we would only feel even more defeated by him. However, if we never think about and talk about this feeling, it only brings more stress, failure and destruction into our lives.
We complain all the more often about how many envious, malicious people surround us, but we have no idea how to protect ourselves from the discomfort and pain they cause.
The purpose of my book is twofold. On the one hand, I would like us to recognize and accept that sometimes we also have envy, and if we manage this feeling well. That is, instead of consuming ourselves, weakening ourselves and trying to harm others, we would use our own envy to help us reach our desired goals. (Because yes, it can be used for that too!) On the other hand, it is also important to learn how to protect ourselves from the harmful effects of others' envy, malice, and evil gossip, so that they cannot divert us from our chosen path.